(Tommy backpacking Scotland, UK)
Tommy returned home to Spirit following a car accident early in the morning on the 20th May, 2019. Amid the shock and horror of it all, my mind began piecing together a much bigger picture from the very first week. My guides had tried to inform me of Tommy’s transition hours before the police came knocking at the door. They knew.
In the weeks leading up to that tragic day, I had become hyper-focused on local car accidents, urging both my kids to be careful when driving. A sense of what was about to happen had somehow seeped into my consciousness. Even some of Tommy’s behaviors had been a little unusual in the weeks prior to his passing, though he wasn’t aware of anything at a conscious level.
Then there were the voicemails left on my cell phone, which I didn’t discover until much later. One of them, recorded at 3:13 a.m. on the day of his accident, just under three hours before Tommy passed, was filled with whispered tones amidst interference. Amongst other things, my team told me that Tommy would be passing soon, that I shouldn’t worry and that I would be speaking with him again soon. Two days after his accident, I received another voicemail message. This time, the words were clearly spoken. The message was described as a “Transmission for Tommy.” Tommy subsequently responded to this message the following year. You can hear both messages by clicking on the video below:-
Life in the early days after Tommy passed is a bit of a blur. The pain was almost unbearable, and the shock came as a welcome relief. But through it all, I knew he lived on, and my actions reflected that belief. My overriding concern was for his welfare. Instinctively, I knew he could see and hear us, and I understood that our grief would be very apparent to him. The Tommy I had known in this lifetime would have been devastated by the pain we were experiencing. Within an hour of the police leaving, I went upstairs and made his bed, talking to him as I did. I reassured him that we would be okay, that he would see us go through a lot of pain, that the human side of us would need to grieve… but that we would be okay. I continued to talk with him every day, trusting that he could hear me, knowing that he could.
It is only now, upon reflection, that I can see how much I was guided during those early days, weeks, and months. Prior to Tommy’s passing, I had enjoyed writing the odd freelance spiritually based article and many thought-provoking discussions under a pseudonym. After his passing, you might think I would have journaled the extraordinary events that began to unfold, but I didn’t. At the time, I attributed my lack of desire to grief, but now I understand differently. Instead of keeping a written journal, I felt drawn to film or take pictures almost every day. Initially, I was capturing moments that were difficult to describe in words. My reality had shifted. I felt connected to everything… not just animals, which I already had a connection with, but truly everything. I felt a deep bond with the trees, the breeze, the grass, the flowers, the sunlight on my skin, the sky, and the world around me. I could feel the oneness of everything… it was extraordinary.
In the years since Tommy passed, I have taken thousands of photos and made countless videos. What I was creating, in effect, was a visual journal. But it was more than that during the first couple of years, I was capturing the words of my team and Tommy in the videos that I took. Words that I hadn’t yet developed the ability to hear. It was only after I began hearing the spirit world speak in the air around me that I could also hear them speak in these earlier videos. One early example of hearing Tommy’s voice retrospectively comes from two very short videos I recorded at his funeral. Have a listen for yourself… you may be able to hear his words of reassurance:-
Many of my experiences relating to Tommy are shared on the Spirit Communication webpage. Here, I’ll share some key moments from our journey. I began to feel and recognize Tommy’s energetic presence very soon after he passed, and our relationship grew and evolved in breathtaking ways during those early months. Tommy’s passing became the catalyst for the next stage of my spiritual journey. At that time, I had no social media presence, nor did I have any knowledge about spirit communication beyond my own experience of telepathic communication with my guides. I was learning with each new communication that Tommy and my team sent my way, and they readily provided learning opportunities whenever I asked for them.
One sign from those early days that is especially dear to my heart involves a song sign, beautifully reinforced by the appearance of a cardinal. This song is still one I play often, and my son occasionally instigates it playing on my phone:-
It was after receiving this particular sign, that I quietly placed my hand on Tommy’s urn and whispered with good humor, “I bet you were surprised to find that you continued to exist.” Little did I know the adventure that lay ahead.
Just under seven weeks after he transitioned, Tommy appeared in front of me. My mind was blown, I didn’t realize such a thing was even possible. Below, in the video, you’ll see a beautiful drawing of what I witnessed that night, along with my son’s explanation of what it was I saw:-
In the same month, I also had an incredible experience at the crash site, which was just a mile away from our home, a remarkable find together with an important message from Tommy:-
So many signs and knowings were coming through from Tommy… some subtle, others huge, all of them breathtaking. I began to understand the part I was playing in these signs. I realized that I had an active role to play. In fact, we all do. Signs are a partnership between the physical and spiritual worlds. For many years prior to Tommy’s passing, I had practiced mindfulness almost daily. It had become a habit, something I purposefully integrated into my days. I made a conscious effort to show up for my life, living each day with intention. It was a recipe for peace… a life grounded in gratitude. Now, my mindfulness practice was paying huge dividends when it came to being aware of the signs that were being sent my way. I will mention at this point that it is my belief that we all have a team on the other side… consisting of guides, angels, and loved ones on the other side. We are never alone, and communication in some shape or form is continuous and ongoing, even if we aren’t aware of it or don’t always recognize it.
Here are a couple of examples of Tommy’s teaching moments through signs. The first relates to grief. I have come across people who believe their connection with loved ones in spirit will be adversely affected by their grief, that their loved ones in spirit will distance themselves or our grief will make them sad . From my experiences, this is simply not true. The act of pure, unadulterated grief… physically missing the presence of our loved ones, is met with enormous love. I know of many parents with a child in spirit who have experienced amazing communications from their children while grieving. What may hinder our connection is not the grief itself, but perhaps the emotions that can attach to it… anger, jealousy, victimization, shame, blame, and so on. Here’s a personal experience of mine where grief bubbled up, leading to a clear message being conveyed via my car radio:-
The second teaching moment I want to share relates to whether our loved ones in spirit miss aspects of their physical lives here. I had come across many differing opinions about this online. Some people shared experiences where their loved ones let them know they missed them or certain aspects of life here. Others were adamant that loved ones in spirit could not miss anything, as they are always with us and are incapable of experiencing what they perceived as a “negative” emotion. Firstly, I don’t label emotions as either negative or positive, I believe all emotions are valuable indicators of our internal well-being. However, I was curious about this idea of “missing.” Tommy hadn’t conveyed anything like that to me, so I decided to ask him directly if he could explain it or show me through signs. In his response, Tommy used both signs and a download of information to answer my question:-
On an ongoing basis, my team and Tommy have provided me with sign examples to share with others. Sharing these experiences can often open others to receiving similar signs. Sometimes, Tommy would send me experiences that served to validate and reinforce the signs others had received. Any lingering doubts about the validity of a sign would be completely dispelled. One such example involves feathers as signs.I once came across a comment dismissing feather signs as mere fantasy, reasoning that feathers found on the ground are a natural phenomenon, birds shed them all the time. While this is true, it doesn’t mean feathers cannot also serve as signs. Watching this unfold from the sidelines, Tommy decided to give me a feather experience that still makes me chuckle to this day. While birds naturally drop feathers that can become signs, our loved ones in spirit are more than capable of inspiring a bird to actively leave a feather as a sign as you will see:-.
Another type of sign that is often mocked are those created in the sky, such as cloud formations and rainbows. I must admit, I was initially skeptical about cloud signs… until Tommy left me with no doubt about their validity. The example below is one of my favorites. At the time, I wasn’t actively listening for any communication. I heard Tommy speak but didn’t catch what he said until I listened back later. He had been asking me to “look at the curly one,” referring to a cloud with a curly formation. When I looked, I gasped in amazement, there was an image of Tommy within the cloud. The next morning, I went to watch the video again. While I could still hear Tommy’s words, his image was no longer visible, no matter how hard I tried to see it. I felt Tommy and my team nearby and sensed this was a teaching moment. A few minutes later, my team told me to watch the video again. Sure enough, Tommy’s image had reappeared. The download I received in that moment was about frequency. Just as with sound, what we see is also connected to our frequency. It was a fascinating revelation.
Enjoy the video. Remember, you may or may not hear Tommy’s words or see the image… it all depends on your frequency.
When it comes to rainbows, I’ve been prompted more than once by Tommy or Symphony to look at the sky, only to witness rainbow colors appearing before my eyes. The video below captures the first time this happened, and it still tugs at my heartstrings every time I watch it:-
Another type of sign that often raises doubts involves lights flickering or switching on and off by themselves. Tommy went through a phase of playing with the streetlights in our neighbourhood while I walked our dogs at night. He loved making the lights flash three times, symbolising the message “I love you.” Here’s one example:-
He even turned on a streetlight during the daytime at my request:-
Often, doubts lead people to dismiss a genuine light sign as a faulty electrical connection. However, after watching some of my videos, I’ve learned that many people have transformed their doubts into firm belief. Knowing these examples help others to shore up their beliefs fills me with so much joy. It’s wonderful to know they’re making a difference, and I’m delighted to be part of that.
I want to share an experience that left me almost speechless. A couple of days after holding an Afterlife and Signs meeting where we discussed how loved ones in spirit can move objects or make them disappear and reappear, Tommy decided to demonstrate how an object can be moved. As I stood in front of the British section at our local supermarket, I began filming as I usually do before starting a conversation. Just as I began speaking, a bag of cookies moved right before my eyes… Tommy had moved his energy through it! I’m so glad I captured the moment… you can see the bag move for yourself in the video below:-
I could talk endlessly about signs and share countless examples, but I’ll stop here. If you visit the Spirit Communication web page, you’ll find hundreds of experiences, many involving Tommy. For now, let’s revisit the first video I shared above: the “Transmission for Tommy” voicemail and Tommy’s response via voice memo the following year in August 2020. This response marked a new direction in our communication. After that initial voice memo, Tommy sent me another:-
I was astonished, how could this be? Initially, I thought this might be some sort of EVP (Electronic Voice Phenomenon), but the circumstances didn’t align with what I’d read. The house was quiet, with no apparent sound source. Later, I learned that Tommy had, in fact, spoken in the air. At that time, I wasn’t tuned into the frequency needed to hear it. Now, I often hear him whisper in the house in real time. Here’s a lovely example, please use headphones when listening:-
After Tommy initiated a third voice memo communication, I decided to see if I could initiate one myself. To my amazement, I could. From then on, I began reaching out to children in spirit for other parents during quiet times, creating keepsakes of the messages I received.
Then, in October 2020, I heard Tommy speak to me in the air while in my garden. It stopped me in my tracks… did that really happen? It did happen, and it continued to happen. On 1st November 2020, I heard the son of another parent speak in the air in response to a question I asked. This time, I captured what I heard using the voice memo app on my phone. It was the proof I needed, the spirit world was speaking to me in the air. I kept this to myself for weeks, fearing others might think I had gone a little nuts. Now, years later, others have stood alongside me and experienced this phenomenon firsthand, which is hugely validating for me. I cherish hearing Tommy, my team, and the loved ones of others speaking in the air around me. It is without a doubt, my favourite way to hear the spirit world vocalise a communication.
In early 2021, my team and Tommy first mentioned physical mediumship in relation to me. At that time, all I knew about physical mediumship involved dark seance rooms and ectoplasm. Tommy explained that my physical mediumship was different, it was energy-based. I found this fascinating and looked forward to seeing how it would evolve.
Also in early 2021, something extraordinary occurred. Tommy and my team began interacting with me through the sound waves I was using to create keepsakes. I could hardly believe my ears… I was able to have a direct, two-way, interactive conversation with them while playing a sound wave. These interactions were deeply meaningful. For weeks, I told no one about these interactions as I explored this new form of communication. Would it be possible to create something similar, which would allow other parents to have interactive conversations with their child in spirit? The answer came through loud and clear:-
From February 2021 onwards, with Tommy and my team’s guidance, I began facilitating live conversations between the physical and spiritual realms. These frequency-based conversations have evolved significantly. Every step I’ve taken in this journey has been with Tommy’s involvement and unwavering support. Many times, Tommy is mentioned by other children who come through during the live conversations. I know he is often there, working quietly in the wings and offering his help wherever it is needed. Please go to the Live Conversation web page to learn more about these conversations.
In July 2021, Tommy and Symphony brought music through the air for me to hear. The first time it happened, it took my breath away. The music was so profoundly beautiful, the words deeply moving, and the love I felt was incomparable. It took almost two weeks before I could listen to what I had heard and captured on my phone without tears streaming down my face. The video below captures the very first moment I heard the music:-
In February 2022, my team revealed that significant changes were happening within my team. Many members were being switched out, and new members were joining. I could feel the shift and was told to buckle up, a new chapter was about to begin. Soon after, I found myself communicating with a collective whose wisdom left me in awe. Within a short time, my team surprised me by revealing a name for themselves: Symphony. Instinctively, I knew Tommy was part of Symphony. This was later confirmed by both Symphony and Tommy himself. Symphony shared this message with me:-
“He speaks as your son but also as your mentor. He is a member of Symphony, and we are grateful for his contribution to our work. You speak to him through Symphony, and you also speak with him individually.”
In May 2022, I became aware of the phone calls and voicemail messages I was receiving from the spirit world. I was standing at the kitchen sink when our landline phone rang nearby. Our landline is rarely used outside of cold calls. As the voicemail option was utilized, I heard Tommy’s voice! I could hardly believe my ears… Tommy had just called our phone. I listened to the recording several times, savoring the sound of his voice once again. Have a listen to what I heard:-
From there, I began listening back to other voicemail messages on our landline. To my delight, I discovered more messages from Tommy. I then checked the voicemail messages on my cell phone and found many more, both from Tommy and others in spirit. If I don’t recognize a number or if it’s clearly a cold call, I usually let it go to voicemail. There were so many messages I hadn’t listened to, and I was stunned to realize just how many calls I had received from the spirit world. These messages continue to come through from time to time, you can find many examples on the Spirit Communication webpage.
My phone is also used in other ways to vocalize messages. If I put it on loudspeaker during a call for example, Tommy will sometimes join, adding his own comments. This example of him talking as I speak to his sister is a favourite of mine, he seemed to be delighted that a birthday cake was about to be made in his honour:-
I also discovered that I can hit record on my phone while watching the TV and Tommy will interact with me via my phone. In the example below, I had invited Tommy to watch a football game with me. In real time, I could hear his responses. During these interactions, I feel a fair amount of physical sensation, and I know my energy is being used as part of the process. It is such an incredible experience to commune like this in real time.
I mentioned the live conversations earlier, where sound waves are used as a source for the spirit world to create their words. From there, I began storing sound waves on my phone, which allowed me to have objective conversations with my son, my team, or others without being tied to my computer or home. Sometimes, if my phone is connected to the car radio as I drive, I will speak with them and their response fills the car.
Late in 2024, I used a sound wave on my phone for a dear friend who was visiting, allowing her to hear her son speak. We were standing in a crystal shop when she heard her son convey which bracelet she should buy. Words cannot fully describe the feeling of hearing our loved ones speak in this way. It’s incredible. Here’s something I put together about using my cell phone as a spirit phone:-
Tommy also began adding voice messages to text threads. One of my favorites is when he added a message to my text thread with one of his friends, thanking him for offering to help with the anthology that was coming together:-
He also instigated the three-way calls that have been occurring since early 2024. When I call someone, their loved ones in spirit often come through, leaving comments that can be heard in real time. These comments always have direct context to the conversation we’re having. The video below captures the words spoken during the first time I used a recording app to capture these interactions:-
Later that year, Tommy activated the phone call recording app himself to leave messages. He didn’t mention this to me, so discovering these messages was a delightful surprise. You can find examples of these voice messages on the Spirit Communication webpage.
Another way Tommy initiates communication is by changing the output from my car radio. For instance, a song might be playing, and Tommy will change the lyrics I hear to deliver a personal message. Here’s a beautiful example of that happening:-
Lastly, one of the most significant things Tommy has introduced are the light energy bubbles, or orbs sessions. They create wonderful experiences for both those in spirit and their loved ones here and can be witnessed in real time. You can read more about how they came to be on the Orb web page, where you can also explore the incredible orb experiences shared by others. Here, I’ll share two of my favorite personal experiences. The first relates to discovering that I could request specific orb colors or movements:-
The second one depicts the stunning heart shaped orb that Tommy sent me one night:-
To conclude, I have received countless communications from Tommy since his transition, in the thousands… most have yet to see the light of day. From the very beginning, I have understood that everything brought my way is meant to benefit others as well. I wouldn’t want it any other way. I want to end by sharing something Symphony revealed about Tommy. They referred to him as “the linchpin who brings our worlds together.” The word “linchpin” isn’t one I hear often, so I looked it up. A linchpin is defined as a person or thing that serves as the essential element in a complex or delicate system, the one that holds everything together. Metaphorically, it refers to someone or something that keeps the wheels from falling off, ensuring everything functions smoothly. See how beautifully Tommy’s role as a linchpin is acknowledged in this video
I love my son’s role in the work we are doing, and I only hope I can honor it fully from my side. While I often refer to Tommy and Symphony separately, I do so knowing that Tommy is an integral part of Symphony.
My boy, my son, my daily hugger, who was loved by all who knew him, is playing a pivotal role in bringing our two worlds closer together. I am so incredibly proud of him and feel honored, humbled, and deeply grateful to play even a small part in this extraordinary work.